Am I too picky?

I've done alot of thinking over the past few weeks, I mean I'm not sure if it's the logical part of my brain thinking or the little bit of insanity that goes on in there, but I keep thinking that I am but too picky when it comes to men.
I almost feel jealous for the people out there that has been seeing the same person for a good few years that look as though they got it good and perfect, but I also did say on my last post that you don't know what goes on in people's life's.. I'm sure they work at their relationships , however these people that from a far you look at and they look happy and in love , just moved in together,  can't keep their hands off each other , and engaged, pregnant yada yada yada!.
I envy them that's all I ever wanted I've never had all that  in one relationship ..in all 2 relationships I've been in, with John I got the physical contact and love but he just never seen me, once a week or even fortnight was not enough and the we seen each other less and less and i got use to being alone and it got to a point that dispite I had the title of being In a relationship.. I wasn't. With Chris I seen him all the time and had got the effection but just not much physical contact.. why cant i have both? One thing they were both the same with, is that it didnt matter if i voiced my concerns over matters ..they both were the same for communication, terrible.
I want it all ,not parts of a relationship ,im aware that noone is perfect but i think you got to have at least all that but like i said.. i feel as though i might be too picky  or maybe im just looking too much into things i don't think it's a bad thing that people have some specifics  in a guy .
I just want a guy that's head over heels in love with me as much as i am for him and that wants to spend time with me , can be, confident and romantic and sweet but who I can have a laugh with as well,  where the hell is my knight In shining armour!..is he stuck in traffic?

You got to hold on to what you've got.

Okay so quick life update. if I can make it quick that is.
Me and Chris have ended our relationship, it was very difficult as it's just so much more than just ending a relationship as we were engaged and living together, this was over 4-5 weeks ago but its just starting to sink in.
There is just so much to it all, that I don't even know where to start with it but I will say this, just because you are going out with someone doesn't mean you have them and you should never stop trying for one another, this really bothers me that these things happen, I've always tried my hardest to take the time to make an effort in the relationship I am in .
I make the effort  with my looks and compliment them , flirt with them understand their needs ..  a relationship should be  filled with love, understanding,  emotional and physical contact I did these things, but there's only a certain amount of time you can throw yourself I someone and get nothing back, it gets a bit embarassing
I don't give up on people straight away, I tried to talk to him  and tell him what's wrong and what we were lacking   I always did that I made sure I'd tell them how I feel  I always stated the problem and wanted to work on it, so why..why is it when I eventually have had enough that I get friends and family tell me that it's was "out the blue" and "oh you's were perfect"
It was only seen that way because I never told people the arguments, and lack of  love i was getting, whats the point? there was no point in tellig people about arguments,  to be honest I didn't even tell my best friend when things were shit because I was embarassed so I can see why she was shocked .. but realising with Chris I wasn't myself I cut off all my friends and family because that was what he was like I sacrificed alot to be with him and this is where it's got me, it trapped me in a relationship, that I was just comfortable in because I didn't want to tell my mum or come home or even know if I could come home I didn't know I was able to.
Don't pass judgement on something you can only see from the outside.
This has been the most crazy month, I knew it wasn't going to be simple but I know other people would be hurt by this news, but if both people arnt happy in the relationship and you've tried to make it work then eventually you just give up. Thinking about it I guess to him he wasn't expecting me to eventually say the words I want to break up, I guess he's  been so use to me saying to him "okay so this isn't working and that isn't working" and him telling me things are going to improve , that he just wasnt expecting it to end all together.
It makes me so mad I don't understand why im not being heard,
We've been through so Much together as well but feelings started to change and disappear the physical part of the relationship was long gone and all that was left was loving feelings you'd feel towards your brother.
If their are any guys out there reading this, please hold onto what you've got.. (sounds like I'm about to sing some bon jovi) and make an effort, same goes to the women out there it's not just one person's job to keep a relationship going you have to work at it together.

what's going on ,on the inside

I've wrote a few posts on my anxiety issue but i've realised looking back at them that i've never really wrote how it truly feels to be in that state, in the mind of it all.
Weirdly i'm finding it difficult to think how it feels as i'm alright at the moment and not had one in a while so i will try my hardest to get all this down.

There are alot of things i wanted to put down before but forgot to say them one thing i hate about it all is, i hate letting my friends down, and i have let them down a lot due to this, and i hate it, if i am feeling bad that day or just had a panic attack , i don't wanna go out, i don't want to be in no one's company, and it's nothing against you guys if you ever happen to read this..i just go into a shell , where i'm very vulnerable, very sensitive and just want to be in a dark room to be honest.Im also left thinking alot of what just happened, why it happened.. sometimes there isn't even a reason for it , i just get a sense of dread wash over me , but yes im left thinking an awful lot of how i've let people down , what other folk may be thinking ... there's just an awful lot of over thinking.. and that doesn't help much

That's basically the aftermath of it , like a chain reaction , you go through this and you get yourself so worked up, you get sweaty palms, your heart is racing like mad that you almost feel like it could burst out of your chest, and in that moment you may think that you could pass out, and it's the worst possible thing your going through, until your breathing gets a bit steadier and you calm down a little only then is when i start thinking too much of  what if someone saw me and think im crazy?, am i crazy? is there anyone else out there that has this?  , what's wrong with me?....and then i start another one and im back to sweaty palms and crazy fast beating in my chest.. it's a vicious circle really.

I've only recently went to the doctors about this, and been prescribed something for a month to see how i get on, and i'm also going to see a councillor.. this actually freaks me out a little , i said i'd go but i'm just getting more and more nervous about it , im not saying taking medication will stop them all  together , because they don't if anything for me they have submerged them ever so slightly, they aren't as big as the ones i've had before , very mild.. but i do still get them, you just gotta learn some techniques on what works for you, which i am still trying to do

quick update

was on my way to work feeling fine got on the bus was fine for the first half of my journey then, out of no where, i felt very sick, got very panicky,  I've no clue why these start sometimes, they say because your overthinking but I wasn't even doing that.
I'm currently sitting in work trying to calm myself down, and since I'm so bad at describing how these attacks make me feel afterwards, I decided to go find a quiet spot in work and write this down. I've just ask Chris to pop into my doctors and make an appointment for me, I need to speak to my doctor about this, I don't want this to ruin my life any more and if there's something I could be taking to make me more relaxed then I'll take it.
no more avoiding this matter time to take control of my life.

Im not okay

SO i found this post in my drafts , obviously forgot to post it so this was 2 3 weeks ago

  Do you ever get those days where you wonder why you are here?, what your purpose is in life?
Today is one of those days for me, even the nicest things that my friends and boyfriend are saying, don't seem to be helping me.. maybe i just need to get this little cry out.

Today started out well,it was a beautiful day and i was to go down and have a casual interview with someone about transferring stores, i don't know entirely why i feel so lousy maybe because this was the first time i have went for an interview in 11 years ? or was it because i thought i had went in there assuming i was getting it and then getting told they couldn't accommodate the hours i needed.
Which got my mind in a warp thinking..over thinking EVERYTHING !
maybe i'm not good enough, maybe i'm not good at my job.
Having anxiety has already put such a hold on things for me  that i feel like i cant do anything, or even bother to try, to be honest i feel like there's no way up from here..maybe i might feel better tomorrow who knows, I'm just getting quite embarrassed and annoyed that i keep having to either call up work and cancelling shifts or having to get sent home, like tonight.
It took me such a long time to calm down tonight , my manager had no choice to send me home.
I'm now just getting to a point that i am fed up of feeling like this.. it's not me, i wasn't this person 4-5 years ago. that incident i had in work has ruined me , changed me as a person, nothing use to break me i was a very happy girl always a smile on my face , always joking, yes i still smile just now it's in between crying an awful lot.
Something needs to be done, i need to get back to the old me .. do any of you ever feel like that, like you've lost yourself along the way? i feel that way , i think some of the people n my life have noticed as well. something needs done, i need help , new job, a happier life

blog update!

well hello you beautiful strangers!,
I've been neglecting this blog recently, now i don't have any subscribers, but judging from the views i do get people that read it, and i thank you.
I do however, want to be able to have  a set schedule , where i sit down say maybe 2/3 times a week and do a blog, at the moment i am currently off sick I've been off work for almost a week already but i spend most of it whining  like a biatch, now realising i'm just going to have to accept there is no "easy fast fix" to recovering and i just gotta let it run it's course.
My sick line is meant to be up tomorrow but judging by the way i feel i don't think im getting better anytime soon, so most likely it is back to the doctors for me on monday for yet another line.
So why may you ask am i telling you think, well firstly because this blog is about everyday life things but, i've decided that with my time off i am going to do more blogs, laying about moaning about how life is unfair, has got a bit boring now so i will grace you with my presence instead, don't worry it's not going to be a diary of how i'll i am everyday, i'd like to do more beauty and fashion pieces  and life matters too.
I also want to do OOTD's  but with me being i'll i'm not really going anywhere.
so yes ! im back hopefully alot more frequent too.

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friendships

I've always been the type of girl in school that floated around with different crowds, i look back on that and thought it was a good thing, because it was all different types of people, from the quiet and awkward people to the ones who stand out of a crowd.to the bullies.

 One friend that i've known since we were 4 years old, went to school together , we were joined to the hip despite in  high school we weren't in each others classes, we grew apart after she decided to leave when she was 16 and i kept at school for another 2 years i'm not quite sure when it got to the point that we just weren't in each others company any more, but even so, we both don't have any resentment because we both have our own lives to live, and every so often when we do see each other we just love to reminisce.You'd think now with the next thing i'm going to say is very sad, but i don't have many friends.
i'm alright with that ,  i wouldn't want a bundle of people in my life  you always get a few dodgy ones, i've had one of those in the past every heard the term, 3's a crowd?, i'll get into that story another time.you will learn in life the ones you should keep in your lives and the ones you should steer clear of, it might take you a while to realise that, because in my own personal opinion on what has happened to me, i use to think even though i was getting bullied that i'd rather have those people as friends than none at all  , which thinking about it now, is just silly, i'd much rather be in my own company than be friends with a bully, and i was for a short while but it was the best thing that happened to me.
 Me and  my bestie , H have known each other  since we were  9 and  11  we lived right across the street from each other. i remember the first time we met, i think that's when you know you got yourself a really good one, is when you can remember your first encounter together. our first little mate date together we played dream phone(ahh i loved that game).. and most likely with our barbies as well.we've known each other for  18 years , that's a really long time
We're the kind of friends that have watched so many movies that we literally just quote them to each other, or use them in everyday life which to me is hilarious.I think everytime we hang out  we do that haha.  We've had our ups and downs, our mad nights out and quite nights in, we've ran marathons together and pigged out plenty, we've picked each other up when we were feeling down and wipes away those tears, even saying something silly in those times to make each other smile.

I  need my friend in my life, we all do, we need those people that you can make memories with, someone you can laugh with uncontrollably  and who can be there for you to wipe away those tears,and to beat up any person who dared make us sad.